Tuesday, July 29, 2014

embrace the mess.

i'll admit it. i'm a control freak. 

i like for things to be perfectly planned, expected and clean. and i am constantly having to remind myself that now that i'm a mom, i've got to let go a little bit.
{my living room- complete with a make-shift changing area on the ottoman and inflatable pool ball pit}
it's okay if the laundry is overflowing, there's dishes in the sink, and it's 3:00 and my child still has squash smeared on his face from lunch... he is a boy {how convenient that people expect BOYS to be messy- though i'm not quite sure how the girl moms are supposed to keep their babes so perfectly pretty all the time}.
{that board is our fancy homemade"baby gate"- and the cat food must be kept on the stairs out of baby-reach}
i'm pretty sure my life will just get messier and messier. and maybe one day i will actually think it's cute when he has leftover food on his face. 
"my home is filled with toys, has fingerprints on everything and is never quiet. my hair is usually a mess and i am always tired. but there is always love and laughter. in 20 years my children won't remember the house or my hair, but they will remember the time we spent together and the love that they felt"- unknown.

Sunday, July 27, 2014

carter's first birthday wish list.

i can't believe that in exactly a month, my baby will be a year old! i made a list recently for grandparents of some things that i would love to have for carter and here's some of the things that were on it: first birthday wish list

1. PBK trailblazer anywhere chair: for christmas i asked for an anywhere chair to match carter's nursery, but have since fallen in love with this faux leather one instead... i plan on putting it in carter's {not currently in existence, but coming soon} playroom but i like that it could blend in anywhere in the house! 

2. fisher price little people: these cute little sets are my current go-to gift for first birthday parties... and i love the noah's ark version as a way to incorporate bible stories in playtime!

3. mega blocks first builders big building bag: because every little kid needs a set of blocks...

4. fisher price see and say: i mainly like this because it reminds me of one my brother and i had growing up... i'm a fan of learning toys, and how cute is it when a little tot can tell you what all of the animals say?

5. jumbo knob puzzles: i'm also a fan of puzzles... and other toys that don't make any noise ;) melissa and doug is one of my favorite brands. i love their classic style wooden toys.

6. anatex mini rollercoaster: these "rollercoaster" toys will forever remind me of my pediatrician's office when my mom didn't want me to play with the germ covered toys in the waiting room. and again, another toy that doesn't make noise... ;)

7. tiny toms: because is there anything cuter?? {i really want these in EVERY color for carter. but red would be a natural choice for football season in athens} size 4-5 for fall/winter if anyone is needs to know ;)

8. radio flyer red wagon: i think this is a must for every child... super cute, yet functional for mom and dad, too! and i pretty much love anything by the radio flyer brand.

9. clothes: because who doesn't like a practical gift? these jammies are my favorite. gap has been sold out of them, but i'm hoping they will restock soon! oh, and if anyone is wondering, he's needing sizes 12 months for separates {summer and early fall} and 18 months for one pieces and pajamas. 

10. little tikes junior play slide: i love this slide because it's small enough that we could keep it inside and since my little one is SO active, i am sure we would love this during the winter months where we spend a lot more time indoors.

greg and i still haven't decided what we are giving carter ourselves {i think we will probably take him shopping on his actual birthday since his party is the weekend before}... so if you have any suggestions on some great gifts, please leave me a comment and let me know!!

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

momma style. {what i wore to a lingerie shower}

lets be honest, i pick out carter's outfit before mine EVERY day. I chose his clothes based on comfort and cuteness for the days activities and then i worry about myself. and i try not to clash with the baby... i'm not saying we need to match, i just can't wear pink when he's wearing red. do other mommas think about that, or am i just weird? 
i've always had confidence in my ability to put together an outfit. but since having carter, i really have struggled with my wardrobe. not only because your body is truly different after carrying and having a baby... but also because it really hard to be cute and and appropriately dressed to bend over and tote a little around. suddenly i can find something wrong with every. single. piece. of clothing in my closet. though i am not ready to cross over to mom jeans"- everything i wore pre-baby seems too "young", too low-cut, too tight, etc...

so i want to start sharing some outfits on the blog that i feel comfortable AND stylish in... 
i wore to my friend's lingerie shower a while back, and i think it's perfect for a night out with the girls- but still appropriate for a mom.

loose top: LOFT
statement necklace: target
leggings and leopard heels: target
wearing this outfit felt fun, and just a little bit sexy- just what i was going for.

{linking up with wiww}

Monday, July 21, 2014

when momma is happy

... everybody is happy.
if there's one thing i've realized in these 11 months (!!!) of mommyhood, it's that sometimes you need a break. that could mean just taking the time to enjoy a long, hot shower and actually shave your legs. or maybe having time to eat a hot meal- in silence. time to go shopping and pick out a new outfit, or pursue a new hobby and make something pretty.
i am so thankful that i have a hubby who understands the need for some "me" time... and he loves the one-on-one time with our boy, so it's a win-win for everyone.

what we have had a harder time doing is finding time for US as a couple.

sure, the hubs and i have had a couple date nights since carter was born... we've seen a couple concerts and most recently went to a wedding without the babe {pictured above}. up until this point we have been really lucky to not have to leave carter with anyone other than family or a close friend.

but i think that we're coming to a point where we need to find a babysitter {or two}... we're planning on joining another small group next month {ours ended this summer} and i think it's about time we make date night a priority.

i can't say i'm looking forward to it... i'm sure i will be a big ball of nerves when we do leave him with a sitter. but i'm starting the process of finding the perfect person for the job...
and one maybe one day i will relax enough to enjoy a date ;)

wish me luck.

Thursday, July 10, 2014

carter's 9 month pictures.

carter has always been a really busy, active baby... when he was a couple weeks old, he no longer wanted to be swaddled, he isn't much of a snuggler, and even in the womb his legs NEVER stopped moving.
but now that he is very mobile, we spend much of our time chasing after him as he crawls ALL over the place. very quickly.
 which is fun... but sure makes picture- taking- day a bit of a challenge.
 so cara's 7 year old son, austin, greg and i all jumped around, clapped, and squeaked toys trying to catch this guys attention while cara snapped away...
 i'm sure we were a pretty ridiculous sight to see.
carter made us work for it, that's for sure... and he may or may not have attempted to eat rocks during these shots.
but in the end, she captured his sassy personality perfectly. 
and i can't wait to chase him around during his 12 month pictures...
it makes me tired just thinking about it ;)

Tuesday, July 8, 2014

10 months.

it's time to start planning your first birthday party, can you believe it?! i can't either. i've said it before, and i will say it again, but each month just keeps getting better and better. i love that your babbling sounds more like talking instead of just noises, and you are beginning to say "mama" and "kitty" {which come out more like "ma" and "ki-ki" right now}. it is so much fun watching you grow and learn!
you had your first ear infection this past month. thankfully, we caught it early and took you to the doctor before it was too terrible. he gave you amoxocillin to take for 10 days... you put up a fight taking it, and we wonder if you had a slight allergic reaction because you had a rash show up, but it took care of the infection.
we had your check up yesterday and you weigh 19 lb, 11 oz. {between the 25% and 50%} and are 31 inches tall {above 95%}, he said that is the avg. height of a 15 month old... so you are definitely a tall boy!

routine and sleep: 
not much has changed with your schedule this month. 
you wake up every day around 7:30, hungry for a bottle. i let you feed it to yourself while i change your diaper. after that if i see that you're laying your head on my shoulder and still acting really tired, sometimes i'll put you back down to sleep a little longer. but if you're good and awake, we will go ahead and start the day.
you're still napping twice a day, around 11:00am and 4:00pm. and going to bed between 8 and 8:30.

clothes and diapers:
you are wearing 12 months in pajamas, shirts and rompers and 9m in shorts. and diapers are still a size 3.

you are eating "three meals" {pureed packs} and averaging about 30 oz. of formula a day. we are trying to offer you food from our plates, but you haven't successfully eaten much of anything. we guess it's a texture thing, because you seem to like the taste but when it hits the back of your throat, you often gag and throw up.
you did try cheerios this month and yogurt this month, and seemed to like them both. and while blueberry puffs are still your favorite, you will now eat other flavors as well. you also like yogurt melts a lot for a little snack to work on your pincher grip.

our favorite baby items:
i don't think i've mentioned your space- saver high chair... we have a big, padded high chair in the dining room, but you don't seem to like it yet... so we have used this one strapped to our kitchen chair for several months and it works really well.
teethers have been very important this month- you like sophie and your monkey the best. and you love to play with any kind of balls

milestones and development: 
your teeth just keep on coming in... number 5 and 6 came through this month.
you have gotten REALLY fast at crawling. and can easily pull up {on everything!} and will even cruise along the side of the couch if you are holding on. you love to "walk" while holding our hands, and take big, marching style steps.

you love to be read to. your favorite books right now are "toot" and "under the sea" {baby einstein book with sounds}

... and you still LOVE swimming!

 you have gotten a little better with diaper changes and being told "no, sir" but when things don't go your way... you are quick to let us know.
we sure do love you and your sassy self!

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

a letter to all the future mamas...

one of the first things my doctor told my husband and i was to focus on what we were going to do AFTER the baby was here... together we would get through the pregnancy and birth- but we needed to worry about the weeks, months and years to come.
{with a three week old baby carter}
and it was seriously the best advice ever.
although the thought of giving birth actually terrified me, i didn't allow myself to put too much thought into it. i trusted Dr. S and knew that he would take care of me and baby boy and we would get through it. {and we did... you can read more about the birth story here}.

reality hits when you leave the hospital. the pain meds suddenly don't seem quite as strong, and you may worry about them running out before you can comfortably ride in the car again. about that time you will probably find that breastfeeding to be harder than you expected. like really hard. mentally AND physically.

... and you may wonder if they swapped your baby and sent you home with someone else's child.
carter cried the majority of the first two nights at home... we were terrified that this would be our "new normal" {think about it... it's got to be a pretty traumatic first couple days of life for the little ones}
... but it got better.
so remember, that just because your first two nights at home may suck- your baby will sleep. {some sooner than others, so yes, DO sleep when the baby sleeps- rest is MUCH more important than dishes or laundry at this point}.

don't worry about getting a schedule established immediately. just go off the baby's cues and take care of yourself. honestly, i was kind of in survival mode for several weeks. it's all a bit hazy now, so make sure you take pictures to document those sweet snuggly moments that you don't want to forget.

once we hit 3 months, i felt like i had a breakthrough. i didn't stress {as much} taking carter out in public and i had confidence in my capabilities handling a hungry & fussy babe, a blowout diaper, or any meltdowns that carter wanted to throw at me.
{three month old baby carter}
your body won't be the same. almost... but not quite. sure everyone may say this, but you don't really believe it {or understand it} until you experience it yourself. i actually got to my pre-pregnancy weight within weeks after delivery... but things shifted and none of my clothes fit the same way. it's hard... YES, that sweet little chub of love is SO worth it. but it's hard. mamas need to feel pretty and good about themselves.

... which is hard to do when your hair falls out. i thought i escaped this when i was 3 months postpartum and my hair was as thick as ever. i stopped nursing around 3.5 months, and THEN my hair started coming out... and wouldn't stop. it was actually pretty scary for a while there. thankfully, it only lasted a couple of months and started growing back in just as quickly. so now i am stuck with these two inch long little baby hairs that stick STRAIGHT up around my hairline and part.

... but it's worth it. SO worth it.

you will love that baby so much that it literally hurts.

... especially when they cry. hearing your baby cry isn't like hearing any other babies cry. it physically hurt me to my core when carter would cry and i couldn't make it stop. it takes everything you have not to cry right there with them {and sometimes you will}.

but don't worry. you will surprise yourself with how much patience you will have and how little sleep you can run on...
{carter at 7 months}
basically, get ready for your world to be rocked in the BEST of ways.

you've got this. it's what we are made to do ;)

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